What is flirting? Every guy knows the definition of the word, but in terms of executing it properly? Not a chance!
To some guys, flirting and charm comes quite naturally, but have no fear if you don’t! Flirting is a skill that can be learned. And with enough practice, any guy can become a certified Don Juan that gets women clamoring for him whenever he wants.
In this article, I’m going to talk about three things that will help up your flirting game.
The first tip is eye contact – knowing when and how to look at a girl is one of the most effective ways to flirt. But be warned, look at her incorrectly and you’ll just look like a creepy pervert. So first thing’s first, don’t stare at a woman. Look at her for no longer than 3 seconds at a time… and smile. Shocking, right? Believe it or not, smiling is scientifically proven to make people attracted to you.
You’ll also want to make eye contact with her when she’s talking to her. Women don’t like it when men are rude, and if you look like you’re not listening, she’ll get turned off right away.
The second flirting technique is physical contact. Touching a woman in a playful manner is always a good thing to do. A lot of men are actually fearful of touching women because they think it’s inappropriate (well, if you decide to grope her butt, then yeah. It’s inappropriate), but playfully touching is a positive thing, especially if you do it at the right moments.
Third, you’ll want to make sure that you tease her. A famous pickup artist once told me to treat your love interest like your little sister. Trust me, this works.
So pick on her! Make fun of her. Don’t be offensive (don’t make fun of her race/religion/etc.) but don’t be afraid to take something small that she’s wearing and poke fun at it.
In some parts of the “pick up” world, this may be called “negging” – you might have heard about this before. It’s a great way to show her that you’re not putting her up on a pedestal and that you’re a strong, confident guy.
Here’s an example of a common neg to use:
“Hey, nice watch. Did you get that on sale at Wal Mart?”
See? Simple and a bit flirty, but also ‘mean’ in a friendly and funny way.
So, keep these three tips in mind the next time you’re chatting up a great looking lass!
Good luck out there….
Mark Belmont, MA, CPT, is a dating coach and editor at LoveLearnings.com. You can get more advice on interacting with beautiful women in his article on how to pick up girls.