Breaking the Ice with an Opening Line
Good Opening Lines for Men
Believe it or not, men feel under tremendous pressure to be funny when they first say something to you. It is the end result of thousands of jokes and anecdotes but most guys would be better by missing out the humour and going for a gentle compliment instead. Remember to be smiling and keeping eye contact when you deliver the words.
“I hope you don’t think I am being cheeky but you have the nicest eyes/lovely smile/greatest laugh of any girl in the room”
“You look like a gentle, friendly person and so I thought I would say hello. My name is X and I am very pleased to meet you”
The first line is great if you are the confident type. You have started off by both paying her a compliment and also been polite enough to ask permission to speak to her.
The second line is always followed by your outstretched hand for a handshake. This way you have been polite, complimentary and you have got the opportunity for gentle touching so important when flirting. The obvious next thing to ask is “what’s your name?”
Good Opening Lines for Women
Men are usually very pleased if they do not have to initiate a conversation that providing a woman says something sensible and vaguely complimentary then all is well. Women should definitely avoid a direct opening sentence and go for the more indirect approach. This, with a little bit of flirting body-language thrown in will suffice. Here are a couple of examples:
“That is a cracking shirt/tie/suit/jacket/after-shave you are wearing. Where did you get it from?
“Hi, I don’t know many people here and I was looking for someone with a friendly face to chat to and you look friendly to me”
The first line works because men are wired differently to women. They are more likely to respond positively to a hard fact and by complimenting his choice of attire you have done just that.
The second line works because he has not had to make any move and the words you have used have illustrated clearly that you enjoy his demeanour enough to make contact.
To a degree, what you say depends on where you are. The very worst place is perhaps in a club where subtlety goes out of the window and the chance to be heard over the music is small. Here you are far more likely to be judged on physical appearance than you are on your conversational skills. If you are at an event or party where there is the opportunity for a more social intercourse then life is far easier. Remember though that you may hit on someone with no interest at all but do not let that knock your confidence. There is someone out the for everyone so keep at it.
Lyndon is a writer on life, love and relationships. Currently he is promoting his over 40 dating website for singles between forty and fifty.